Documentation Required to Process a Death

My dad died just before xmas and my brother is looking to do a reading or say a poem at the funeral?

He died suddenly in a tragic accident and my brother was the closest person to him. If anyone could let me know any poems or readings about father and son I’d appreciate it.

My mothers brother died last week….?

and was buried on Friday, but when she sent flowers to his funeral there was no record of him being buried there, (my mom didn’t get on with his wife and kids and wouldn’t be welcome there) how can we find out online where he is buried, they are 250 miles apart so can’t do it in person. Thanks to all who reply.

My friend since 3rd grade died last week…?

I have dealt with loss before. My grandfather passed when I was 20 and in the millitary…. and my sister passed when I was only 4 years old. It kind of sucks that since my sisters passing… everytime I smell flowers I think of death, because thats was how everything smelled at her funeral. so many flowers…

Well, my friend passed last week, and I attended his wake/rememberance today. It is such a shame that i didn’t contact him sooner, and I feel terrible. I don’t think that I could have stopped his death in any way, but at least I could have talked to him one more time. In elementary school we were inseparable, and I have pictures of us at Chuck E Cheese together for my birthday. I copied them for his mother.

After elementary school he hosted “bible club” at our high school, and I attended. We used to go up in my room and we’d record tracts of us playing guitars and singing. He took me to his church, and there was a “coffee house” meeting every weekend. He even took me too a small church hall concert in 2000, the main band playing was POD, I had never heard of them but they soon became popular in the coming years.

After we parted ways (I joined the military) we lost touch for a while until I got out. He was at the 5 year class reunion, and everything seemed great. That was the last time I talked to him. My other buddy saw him a month ago, and go this number. I kept meaning to call him, but I just put it off like I do with everything.

Now I hear that he had denounced his faith a couple years ago…. He ended up hanging himself on Feb. 13th, 2010 after a bad break up….. He was 27. I just don’t know how to feel.
I understand SI (suicidal ideation), that was the reason why I was released from the military. So I know what he went through, but he took that last step that I was never able to take. And to think back on him, I would still have never expected that he would be the one to do it. Thank you for the kind comments. The athiest / christian comparison really has no bearing on what I was trying to say, just a comment.

i work for an agency and had to take tome off because my grandson died suddenly, they wont pay me bereavement?

RSPCA’s Home for Life

Many people worry about what will happen to their pets when they die. Now the RSPCA has launched Home for Life which is a free service where they will do all they can to find a new, loving home for your pet if you should die.

Too many cats and dogs are left homeless after their owners pass away. Now you can ensure they’re properly looked after should anything happen.

Click here to find out more or take a look at the questions which are frequently asked about Home for Life:

Q  What happens when I die – how does the RSPCA find out?
Once you use our Home for Life service you should let your friends, family or neighbours know that you want the RSPCA to take in your animals in the event of your death. We also provide a wallet card, which can be kept with you at all times – it has a telephone number to call.

Q  What happens when I die – what is the procedure?
As soon as we are informed that someone who has used Home for Life has died, our Legacy administration department will get in touch with your regional RSPCA office, who will collect your pet or pets as a matter of urgency. The animals will be taken to the nearest RSPCA Animal Centre, or other suitable accommodation, while we set about doing all we can to find them a loving new home. In addition, every animal coming into our care gets a health check. For most pets that includes vaccination, neutering and microchipping.

Q  Can you rehome my animals together?
If you want your animals to be re-homed together, you should mention this in your Will. Although we cannot guarantee that this will be possible, we will do everything we can to honour your wishes. In every event, we will do what we feel is best for your pets. If trying to find a new owner for more than one animal together involved them spending longer than necessary in an Animal Centre, we would need to review the situation.

Q  Do you vet new owners?
Usually, before anyone can adopt an animal from the RSPCA, we interview them. This way, there are no impulsive decisions and the RSPCA is certain the animal is going to the right home. In addition, a home visit may be required, and this is often followed up with a post-adoption check.

Q  Are there any animals you won’t take (i.e. not just cats and dogs)?
The RSPCA is the largest animal welfare charity in the UK, and has facilities to take on most animals. Although spaces for larger animals such as horses may be limited, we do have some facilities for them. The only types of animal the RSPCA may have difficulty rehoming are fish or exotic animals. If you are thinking of using Home for Life for fish, exotic or large animals, please call Jo Curtis to discuss on 0300 123 0239.

Q  What happens if my family offer to take the pet?
The RSPCA’s Home for Life service is to be used in the event that you have not made alternative provisions for your animal’s care, so if a family member or friend has offered to look after your animal that’s fine.

Q  I have included this in my Will but not used your wording. Is that okay?
As long as your wishes are clearly stated in your Will and you have included our charity name and registered charity number this should not be a problem.

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