My Nana Has Just Died and She Doesn’t Want a Funeral , How Do You go About That ? ?
since its going to cost over £2000 for anything at the directors,and non of us has the money to even think of it… i would like to know if there is anyway to go about not paying so much for one , and keeping with my Nana’s wishes .
she didn’t want a funeral and didn’t agree with them in life , so why does it cost so much money !!!!! How do i get her to the crematorium , with out a funeral ??????
Can any one tell me if they is a good web site were i can talk about bereavement?
how does anyone feel about bereavement support?
I am getting to an age to think about my Funeral,the cost of it ?
£1,500 to £1,600 the cheapest. Bunch of flower £90
would it be better to be buried at sea or in my back garden.?
Burials and cremations same
cost of gas
PS in India they have funerals at side of
the Gangies river,wrap you in sheet
burn you then ashes go into river,heard
they are trying to pass law so it can be done in UK,Do you this OK for me?
My mum is being really horrible about my grandmother’s death?
My mother has always had issues about her relationship with my gran and complains that she is not loved by her or that my nan preferred her siblings. My mum has a real reputation as being a drama queen and my family and I have quite difficult relationships with her. Sadly, my grandmother passed away yesterday after a short illness. She was an amazing lady and really loved. This has given my mother all sorts of opportunities to stir and make trouble. She didn’t bother to tell my sister in person that she had died but left an answerphone message on her mobile. When she phoned me to tell me that she had passed on, my husband answered and she just said “Tell her her nan’s dead” and put the phone down. When I called her back, she started to complain about the cost of funeral flowers and that she wouldn’t bother getting any. She also told me that she was planning on using the money that was coming to her from nan’s estate to lay a new patio. She phoned my aunt and told her that I had
been demanding gifts back that I had given to my nan, which is completely untrue. To top it all, she refused to go and see my nan on her death bed and now is kicking up a fuss that the funeral can only be on a day that suits her, despite the funeral home already confirming that they can’t delay the funeral for no good reason. My mum claims that if the funeral isn’t on a certain day that she won’t go and it will all be the fault of my aunt and uncle for “willfully” planning it for another day. She’s retired by the way, so every day is good for her.
My sister is now saying that if she doesn’t buck her ideas up, she’ll never talk to her again. I’m sad because of the loss of my nan,but this whole situation is making me more and more angry. I feel as though I’m about to blow my top. Please help – this is hard enough as it is, without watching my family tear itself apart. How do I deal with my mum over this?
I should add that this is classic behaviour for my mum and it’s a wondedr that we still talk to her! But I never thought she would get so childish over something so serious.
Should I feel bad about not attending a funeral?
The mother of the landlord died. She lived next door to me and was a grand old lady. However, I didn’t know she’d died nor that there was a funeral until about 2 hours before the event.
The landlord knocked on my door this afternoon and told me his mother had died and that the service was to be held at 2 p.m. and the location. He said he’d tried to reach me a couple of times earlier in the week but couldn’t.
As I’d planned a lazy Sunday, I hadn’t eaten yet or showered yet. There’s no way that I could have showered, eaten, gotten my clothes ready and driven to the service in time to make it.
Yet, still I feel bad that I’m not able to attend this lady’s funeral. Ordinarily, I would have sent flowers, a card and attended not only the service but the wake, had I known.
When I say lay out clothes, it means I had no dress shirts that were clean, nor were my shoes shined. I thought it best not to show up looking like an unmade bed. Even without those additional time consumers, the effort to make the event on time would have been difficult, given the time of the notice.
To al G. It had been mentioned that she was sick. And, I had decided that should this happen, God forbid, that I decided I would attend both the wake and the funeral. It was never a question of having to attend it or not wanting to attend it.
Yes, given the facts, should this lady have died, I had decided that I would attend any services for her. But, the circumstances made it impossible to attend in a timely manner, presentable.
This was no an event that I was looking forward to attending, but an event that I had decided that I would attend out of respect. It wasn’t a question of something I was wanting to avoid.
Can anyone tell me a bit more detail about what various different jobs in a Funeral Home involve?
Preferably someone who works in one, can you describe a typical day, and how you deal with the emotional repercussions, and the best way to deal with grieving families? I’m also interested in how you feel being around the deceased, how you felt in the beginning and whether this has changed now?
No, I’m in the UK, and I think you’ll find there is such a thing here, funeral services don’t appear magically out of thin air anywhere other than America you know.
How do you go about writing a thankyou letter?
I have to write thankyou letters to people, thanking them for taking part, and messages of sympathy, and flowers, at my mums funeral.
What do I say, and how do I write them, as its not like a normal thankyou.
I would also like to thankyou all for all your words of comfort and prayers. I am honoured to know so many good friends.
Thankyou all so much, and God bless
How long after a bereavement did it take to be able to think about that person without becoming upset?
My Grandad died September 99, I can think about him briefly but if I dwell on him for too long (even happy memories) I find myself inconsolable and feeling the pain I felt when he first died. How long will it be before I can think about him and smile?
Denise J- its not that easy to turn off the pain, if I could I wouldn’t be asking this question.
Who listens when you need to talk about bereavement ?
many of us live in a remedy culture where difficulty expressed is encountered with a suggestion of taking prescribed medications.
